Brain injury and TBI is a confusing thing to deal with.

March 14, 2013, Kitchener, Ontario

Posted by: Robert Deutschmann, Personal Injury Lawyer


Interacting with people who have a brain injury is confusing. You'll want to speak to your friend, or your family member, but it can be really hard to show your compassion without showing your frustration with the situation.

Dr. Marie Rowland  recently wrote an article on about the 9 things you shouldn't say to someone with a brain injury.

1.     You seem fine to me. 
Some of the impacts of brain injury are 'invisible' or transient. Someone may look normal but suffer significant memory, concentration and depression problems.

2.     Maybe you're not trying hard enough/you're lazy.
Lack of interest, or apathy, can be easily confused with laziness. 

3.     You're such a grump.
Irritability is one of the most common signs of a brain injury. It can be from the brain in injury of a side effect of depression, anxiety or chronic pain.

4.     How many times do I have to tell you?
While it is frustrating to repeat yourself, memory problems are very common with brain injury. Try a routine, and a memo board to help cue the person.

5.     Do you know how much I do for you?
They likely do, and feel guilty about it already.

6.     Your problem is with the drugs you are taking.
Prescription drugs have all kinds of side effects. Review the medications and problems with the doctor.

7.     Let me do that for you.
Control and independence are the first thing someone with brain injury loses.

8.     Try to think positively.
Easier said than done. Dwelling on problems is usually linked to depression.

9.     You are lucky to be alive.
They many not think so. People with TBI are 6 times more likely to have suicidal thoughts.

For coping strategies have a look at the original article.


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